Being in a romantic relationship
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Choccodee39
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Being in a romantic relationship
Being in a romantic relationship can be a wonderful thing, especially when there's mutual feelings between the two. There's nothing like being pampered and also pampering the one you love. To be in a romantic relationship you must trust and be loyal to each other. Communication plays a major key in a romantic relationship. You must be able to open up and express your feelings to one another. Remaining faithful to one another is also very important, no one wants to share their significant other with someone else. How do you feel about romantic relationships? What do you think it takes to be in a romantic relationship?
Re: Being in a romantic relationship
Who don't want to be romantically involved with the one they love wholeheartedly. It's a great feeling I personally think all adults need to experience in their life time. It give you a sense of being apart of another space and you never want to be separated. Just keep it healthy with boundaries to give room for time to self-love and self -care. It's an ultimate feeling being romantically involved.
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CurvesAndConfidence
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Re: Being in a romantic relationship
I love romantic relationships and am very thankful to be in a somewhat romantic relationship. My boyfriend is still learning haha! This is his first serious relationship, and his dad isn't really a romantic person, so I've been showing/teaching my boyfriend how to be more romantic (which is he doing really good at and I'm thankful). I myself love being sappy and romantic so also having a partner who is vulnerable and romantic is a fantastic feeling. I love feeling wanting, loved and cared for. Though my boyfriend has always been extremely supportive and helpful he's needed some guidance on how to be romantic and vulnerable. He's admitted that in the past he was reluctant to be vulnerable as he was scared of getting hurt or that I would leave but we've talked it out, communicated and he's since expressed that he no longer has those fears. Since he's been more vulnerable, I've also noticed he's been more romantic.
As for your second question Choccodee39, I think it takes
1. Communication. This doesn't mean just talking but rather hearing each other. Sharing feelings, checking in on each other often, you also have to be open and honest even when it feels uncomfortable. I find vulnerability to be brave and beautiful.
2. Trust. Trust is the foundation of any friendship or relationship, and it is no exception here. Without trust even the strongest chemistry can crumble. Trust is something that is built over time through consistency, respect and transparency.
3. Respect. Respect is huge and if there is no respect good luck trying to be romantic. Respect is also valuing each other as a whole. It's also celebrating each other's differences, boundaries and even dreams.
4. Effort & Presence. Communication, trust and respect are great but if you don't put in any effort or you're not present for your relationship it also won't last. Effort doesn't mean doing BIG things, it's really the little things, doing the small stuff, and of course being present. This will keep the love fresh and exciting. It also means showing up even when it's tough or not convenient for you.
5. Shared values (or at the very least a willingness to understand each other and accept that you are different.) I'm not saying you have to agree on everything, but having aligned goals or a willingness to support each other's path does go a long way. Though you don't have to share values I do find that your core values do have to align. If one person values quality time and the other values more monetary things it just won't work in the long run. Both are okay, but if you care more about what money can buy and your partner cares more about spending time with you there will be tension and issues maybe not at the beginning but eventually.
6. The last thing I think it takes to be in a romantic relationship is forgiveness & growth. No one is perfect so there is bound to be frustrations, anger and disagreements. Which is okay and it's actually healthy to disagree. However, there is a way to go about it. There is no need for raising voices, calling each other names or putting each other down. Giving and receiving grace, learning from mistakes on both ends, and evolving together is the key to a lasting connection. My boyfriend and I have had some disagreements, but we have always kept in mind that it is us against the issue and not the issue vs. me vs. him. As I've mentioned before, it is healthy to disagree but there is also a healthy way to go about disagreements and that's what you have to keep in mind.
Sometimes being romantic can come naturally and other times it's something you have to work at. Relationships aren't going to nurture themselves, so you do have to put communication, trust, respect, effort & presence, shared values (to a degree) and forgiveness & growth in the relationship or it will never grow. However, one thing to keep in mind is that not everyone is going to want to be a romantic and that is also okay. When deciding to date someone one thing that is EXTREMELY important is having a talk on values and what you both expect to get and give in a relationship. It'll make it a lot easier to find the right person for you and to get into a relationship that will last.
As for your second question Choccodee39, I think it takes
1. Communication. This doesn't mean just talking but rather hearing each other. Sharing feelings, checking in on each other often, you also have to be open and honest even when it feels uncomfortable. I find vulnerability to be brave and beautiful.
2. Trust. Trust is the foundation of any friendship or relationship, and it is no exception here. Without trust even the strongest chemistry can crumble. Trust is something that is built over time through consistency, respect and transparency.
3. Respect. Respect is huge and if there is no respect good luck trying to be romantic. Respect is also valuing each other as a whole. It's also celebrating each other's differences, boundaries and even dreams.
4. Effort & Presence. Communication, trust and respect are great but if you don't put in any effort or you're not present for your relationship it also won't last. Effort doesn't mean doing BIG things, it's really the little things, doing the small stuff, and of course being present. This will keep the love fresh and exciting. It also means showing up even when it's tough or not convenient for you.
5. Shared values (or at the very least a willingness to understand each other and accept that you are different.) I'm not saying you have to agree on everything, but having aligned goals or a willingness to support each other's path does go a long way. Though you don't have to share values I do find that your core values do have to align. If one person values quality time and the other values more monetary things it just won't work in the long run. Both are okay, but if you care more about what money can buy and your partner cares more about spending time with you there will be tension and issues maybe not at the beginning but eventually.
6. The last thing I think it takes to be in a romantic relationship is forgiveness & growth. No one is perfect so there is bound to be frustrations, anger and disagreements. Which is okay and it's actually healthy to disagree. However, there is a way to go about it. There is no need for raising voices, calling each other names or putting each other down. Giving and receiving grace, learning from mistakes on both ends, and evolving together is the key to a lasting connection. My boyfriend and I have had some disagreements, but we have always kept in mind that it is us against the issue and not the issue vs. me vs. him. As I've mentioned before, it is healthy to disagree but there is also a healthy way to go about disagreements and that's what you have to keep in mind.
Sometimes being romantic can come naturally and other times it's something you have to work at. Relationships aren't going to nurture themselves, so you do have to put communication, trust, respect, effort & presence, shared values (to a degree) and forgiveness & growth in the relationship or it will never grow. However, one thing to keep in mind is that not everyone is going to want to be a romantic and that is also okay. When deciding to date someone one thing that is EXTREMELY important is having a talk on values and what you both expect to get and give in a relationship. It'll make it a lot easier to find the right person for you and to get into a relationship that will last.
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Ravenfreak
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Re: Being in a romantic relationship
I believe you should be able to talk to your partner about anything. If you cannot communicate well, it's not going to work out. My wife and I have been married for five years and been together for almost 15 years. We always talk things out when we're upset, and if I accidentally overstep boundaries she lets me know.