Friends who constantly cancel plans: How do you address it?

[Choccodee39]

Have a friendly conversation about what has been happening lately when they make plans to do things with you, the cancelations. The waste of time on your part. Allow then to know you're beginning to question if their time with you is as important to them as it is you. Let them know yes life happens, however it's been three back to back cancelations and no excuse as to why just sorry I want be able to do tonight. We'll either have to set up plans days in advance to give room to move plans around if need be. That's only if the time together is important to you. With that being said should we evaluate our friendship maybe we're outgrowing each other and that's fine. At least we can back of and remain friends. I leave for you to decide since the cancelations are on your part. No shade intended, just being a real friend here. How would you address a friend that keeps canceling plans constantly?

[Kylie]

This one is simple you speak with your friend with kindness. Speak how you feel that by them making or agreeing to plans y'all have and then they cancel constantly, which is an inconvenience to you because you have set aside the time and now it is a waste. Just honestly let them know they can not continue to take your time for granted.

[CurvesAndConfidence]

So, I've had someone who would either cancel on me last minute or no show and it was extremely frustrating and disrespectful. I ended up messaging her letting her know that it's rude and disrespectful. There are a lot of things we can get back in life but time just isn't one of them so if someone is going to waste my time and not respect my time I have no time for them. I don't want someone who only wants me around when it's convenient to them or when I can be of help to help. I usually communicate with them that this is an issue for me and if the behaviour doesn't improve, I no longer make plans with them. I don't have time for people who aren't respecting me and my time and so I just don't talk or hangout with them. I understand that sometimes people run late and sometimes things happen but if it's a pattern that's when it's an issue to me. I'm an extremely understanding person but I too have boundaries and deserve my time to be respected.

[Ravenfreak]

It depends, if they're not giving good reasons why they're cancelling then I would confront them. However if they're cancelling due to mental health or they're just not feeling well, I would reach out and try to help them through their issues and give them time.